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Break the silence, caregiver!

Updated: Apr 29

Break the silence, caregiver! The guilt of caregivers revealed.
The life of a caregiver is often marked by silence and solitude. Behind the forced smiles and reassuring words sometimes lies a deep sense of guilt. This is the guilt felt by the men and women who look after their sick or dependent loved ones day after day.


“Four years after the death of my mother from Alzheimer's disease, I still feel the weight of guilt. I tell myself that I should have acted differently, that I should have enjoyed the moment more, that I could have done more for her, etc....  All in all, you know what I mean! “
Break the silence, caregiver!
“Four years after the death of my mother from Alzheimer's disease, I still feel the weight of guilt. I tell myself that I should have acted differently, that I should have enjoyed the moment more, that I could have done more for her, etc....
All in all, you know what I mean! “

Breaking the silence, caregiver
The guilt of not doing enough, of not living up to expectations, of not being able to relieve the suffering of your loved one. The guilt of having to sacrifice one's own life, one's own aspirations, to be at the bedside of someone who needs it so much. The guilt of feeling frustrated, angry and exhausted, when you're supposed to be strong and unflappable.

Breaking the silence, caregiver
Don't keep those gnawing feelings to yourself. Talk, share your fears, doubts and pain. You're not alone in this ordeal: there are people who can understand, support and accompany you. Don't hesitate to contact associations such as Entre Aidants or L'Appui for help. By sharing your experiences and emotions, you'll be able to cope better with feelings of guilt, and discover that other people are going through the same experience as you.

Breaking the silence, caregiver
Free yourself from the guilt that shackles you. You deserve to be respected, supported and loved. The work you do is immense and essential, so don't underestimate yourself. Your dedication and compassion are precious treasures. Don't let them be tarnished by guilt.

Breaking the silence, caregiver
The tasks and responsibilities that come with being a caregiver can be overwhelming. Caring for someone else is an unsettling experience that can bring about many changes in our daily lives. Assuming responsibility for decision-making, physical and psychological care, managing legal issues and meeting the challenges of financial resources can lead to an overwhelming sense of helplessness. Questioning the relevance of choices and the right decision to make can leave you feeling vulnerable.

Breaking the silence, caregiver
It's important to recognize that feeling emotions, often contradictory ones, is somehow normal, because at the end of the day, we're all human! Although it's not always easy, especially when different emotions overlap in the course of a single day, coping with dualities: either that of feeling guilty for taking time for ourselves and going about our business, or that of feeling contradictory emotions such as despair, hope, sadness or joy. These internal emotional dualities often fuel our frustrations and feelings of guilt.

The importance lies in becoming aware of our limits as humans. By observing ourselves and accepting that we're not used to dealing with so many emotions at once. Humor is one of the simplest ways to lighten situations. By learning to add a touch of laughter and lightness to your reactions, you'll find it easier to adapt your interventions while adding flexibility.


Breaking the silence, caregiver
From what I've observed, it's vital to make the right decision for the health and safety of the person being cared for, as this is the best option in the present moment. By doing so, we avoid not only risks for the person being cared for, but also any feelings of guilt that might arise from a decision to the contrary. It's important to always act responsibly and kindly towards those you're helping.
The compassion that lies at the heart of benevolence drives us to want to help others as best we can. However, not all days are the same. Some days are more pleasant than others, but when the going gets tough, kindness and compassion will always find their way to you.
After all, we're all human!
It's normal that some days we're not at our best!

Breaking the silence, caregiver
We know you're courageous and dedicated to your role of support and companionship. But sometimes, it's easy to get lost in the pressure and responsibility that come with this mission. It's essential that you don't keep everything to yourself, that you don't let the silence settle in, and that you talk about how you're feeling.

Silence can be suffocating, locking you in your thoughts and isolating you. By breaking this silence, by sharing your emotions, your fears, your doubts, you free yourself from an immense weight. You have every right to feel overwhelmed at times, to need support and reassurance. Don't let shame or fear stop you from asking for help.

Talk to a friend, a healthcare professional or other caregivers. Express your needs, your limitations, your concerns. You deserve to be heard, to be supported, to be understood. Don't let the silence suffocate you, break it and find the strength to continue to be there for your loved one, while taking care of yourself.

We'd like to congratulate you on your incredible dedication and devotion to your loved ones. Your unconditional love and invaluable support make you exceptional people. Your compassion and strength are admirable. Continue to be the shoulder your loved ones can lean on; you make a huge difference in their lives. Bravo for all you do, you are everyday heroes.

With all our gratitude and admiration,

Huma ❤️

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